So easy to get angry, wow …

I got pissed-off yesterday listening to a governor trying to re-cast his costly decisions during the first month of the COVID crisis as heroic leadership.

But I caught myself.

Because getting pissed-off doesn’t solve anything.

Arguably, it’s just a way to viscerally salve angst without actually doing anything. You get angry. The hormones flood. You yell and scream with your friends. You then feel sated. “I’ve shown how indignant I am! How I am on the side of right!” Then you wake up the next day and go back to making a living.

Actually changing something is bitchin’ harder.

And very specifically, it requires NOT getting angry.

How many times have we resolved complex issues at work by getting seething angry with our coworkers?

How many times have we productively resolved relationship issues while screaming at our partner?

How many projects in our church/community group have we successfully navigated through while excoriating our fellow church-goers/community members?

It doesn’t work that way.

So I calmed down and got myself back to my work. Which is, actually, figuring out how to fix the problems that have led us to having people as our leaders that would shamelessly rewrite — even quite grave — history in order to make themselves look good.

And though you didn’t realize it, you just participated in one of those steps.

Thank you for reading.

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Thoughts from across the aisle...

“Let’s calm it down. I understand we have differences; we always have had differences…. That doesn’t make someone a bad person…. If you demonize differences, it is like injecting cancer into the body politic. Where literally one cell starts to feed on the other cells. And at the end of the day, the election will be over, we’ll wake up, and we still have to live together as one country and one family and let’s bring down the heat because a lot of damage can be done.”

— Andrew Cuomo, Governor, NY, reacting to package bomb he received

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